Does Diabetes Affect Your Sex Life?-Discover How to End the Sex Drought

Does Diabetes Affect Your Sex Life?-Discover How to End the Sex Drought

Does diabetes affect your sex life?

Sex may be the most powerful and enjoyable three letter word in the language. I’ll be that you’re shaking your head up and down or saying, “hell yeah!” Ok so we all agree that is one the best pleasurable things in life. I think we can agree too that diabetes is not one of the pleasurable things in life. Sex and diabetes can go together when diabetes is a cause of less or no more sex. Either way you want to know where the problem lies and what you can do about it.

Sex

If you’re not really in the mood lately like you used to be, it’s not you. Over 35% of women and 75% of men with diabetes are going through the same feeling of little or no desire for sex. Diabetes can affect you and your body in so many ways that you never thought about before being diagnosed with it.

The best thing you can do is to get your blood sugar levels under control. The next is to talk to your partner and then your physician. You might be thinking well, I don’t have diabetes but he (or she) does. So now what? We’ll get into that shortly.

Controlling the diabetes first off

Take control of your life

Is the lack of interest truly related to diabetes? What is to blame for your sex drive diminishing? Is it fatigue, stress from work or home, your age, your partner? Are you depressed? Are there many distractions in your life or in the bedroom? Is boredom the cause? So pinpointing the cause is where it begins. But if you’re diabetic, that’s probably the cause. First talk to your doctor about it and if nothing else is brewing except diabetes, then let’s see what solutions are available.

The things you want to control that are diabetes related begin with lowering your blood sugar. Once you get your numbers to where they should be you’ll be on the right track. Your glucose should be under 7.0 but if you’re a diabetic you probably already know that. Monitor your sugar levels everyday. It’s mostly about eating right and exercising but if you want your sex drive back, then I’m sure it’s worth it.

High blood pressure is another thing you don’t want to fool around with and ignore. It can affect you in many ways such as your heart, kidneys, liver and every other organ in your body. You don’t want a heart attack or stroke. Of course high blood pressure affects diabetes. Have it checked by your doctor frequently or pick up your own and you can check it at home or on the go.

Triglyceride levels should be checked too. High levels are not good for you. Cholesterol clogs your arteries and that’s why your cholesterol numbers should be part of your labs when you have them checked.

Lose weight! I know. You’re tired if hearing those two words but with diabetes and your health in general it’s the biggest benefit for your health overall, not just for diabetes. Being overweight causes many issues including low self esteem and losing the desire for sex. There are numerous ways to lose weight and if diets and other things don’t work, then sit down with a nutritionist.

The best way is to eat less and move more. Ok, so maybe you can’t cut out everything and you hate exercise. Make a choice to compromise and follow a better healthier diet and exercise some. I hate running. But walking is something we do everyday so why not just increase it?

I love riding my bike. I go everyday if the weather permits. If not, I use my exercise bike. I also go to the gym. I don’t kill myself but it’s all about getting up and moving. I took a break while writing now and just got back from a 30 minuet bike ride. It clears my head and it burns calories. So again, eat less and move more.

Other reasons for not having sex lately

  • You might not feel as connected with your partner as you used to. Was there an argument or arguments?
  • If there was an affair there may not be the trust and or desire to so soon afterward.
  • Have you felt that your sexual performance was sub par? Maybe it worries you?
  • Something said by you or your partner that was undesirable?
  • Is time an issue? There never seems to be enough time for everything.
  • You’re not feeling good about how your body is. Has it changed?
  • Just take the time to relax and think about what the cause might be.

If you try something that you believe could be causing your low sex drive and it doesn’t help, don’t get discouraged. It might be more than one issue responsible. If it is diabetes and your doctor agrees then start controlling it immediately. Whatever the case, just stay calm and try the next thing on the list.

Discussions with your doctor

Talking to the doctor

It’s not the easiest subject to discuss with your doctor. But it’s still an important health issue that you need to talk about. Just be yourself and feel that you can tell him or her anything. Have a list of questions with you to ask. Just say that you’re having intimacy problems and ask if it could be related to diabetes. Then you can work out a plan that can help.

You and your partner working it out together

This may be about just you or your partner or even both of you. Like any other problems in life, it pays to sit down and discuss it. Remember two heads are better than one. This may be better for you or you may want to speak with a counselor. I always felt that sitting down with my significant other was the best choice. Keeping communication open is a wise decision. Not communicating could be the cause of lack of sex too.

Stress always seems to play a big role in everything especially in the bedroom. If something is bothering you or your partner and you keep it inside without talking it out, then it won’t get resolved and neither will the intimacy in your relationship.

Did you know that your brain is the most powerful sex organ in your body? Ok, bring on the food! LOL Foods with serotonin may get you in the mood. So try dark chocolate. But only a little because with diabetes you’re watching your sugar intake,right?

Who else wants sex again? What can you do?

Having sex
  1. Change up the time. Maybe you’re too tired at night or at bedtime. Is morning better or not so close to bedtime when you’re completely exhausted? It might even be better if it’s not planned to a specific time each day. Maybe afternoons on the weekend put you in the mood too.
  2. Is dryness a problem? Lubricants may help if this is the issue. You can discuss this with your doctor if you are talking to him or her about sex.
  3. Medications. Again in speaking with you doctor, this could be an option for decreased sex drive, dryness in the vaginal area, or erectile dysfunction. Controlling your blood sugar will help prevent blood vessel and nerve damage that can eventually lead to erectile dysfunction.
  4. Check your blood sugars often. Regular exercise increases blood flow and erections, vaginal lubrication, and sexual arousal all have to do with blood circulation.
  5. Depression. This is a real downer. If you are depressed there’s not much hope of you wanting anything to do with sex.
  6. Confidence. Are you lacking confidence or having low self esteem? You have to feel good about yourself before you can feel good about your partner. It doesn’t matter what other people think. It only matters what you think and don’t let anyone else make you feel otherwise.
  7. Bored? Has sex just gotten to be repetitive and boring? Try something new. Sex toy? Video? Surroundings?  Different positions? How about planning a romantic evening out first? Do you fantasize?
  8. Sex therapist. They can really help if you feel the need to discuss this openly with a professional.

Ironing out the kinks

If you’ve got your diabetes under control and that’s not the issue then many of the other possible problems could be causing the “invisible sex” that you’re now having. It should start with discussion. If you pretty much know what the problem is then fix it. If you don’t, then try one step at a time eliminating what it isn’t until you find out what it is. It might be more than one thing that you’re dealing with here. That’s where a specialist can help you. But if it is just one issue and it relates to diabetes? Then you know what you have to do.

Diabetes is not a death sentence if you take control. It can be taken care of if you are willing to do what it takes. It’s the same with the libido issue. The time is now because it won’t solve itself. Only you two can do that. Talking things out helps a lot of the time and sometimes you have to turn to the professionals. But the more that you know about diabetes and what it can and what you can do about it, the better off you will be.

Something lead up to this lack of sex. There’s a solution to every problem. So does diabetes affect your sex life? With diabetes, it can wreak havoc on your body IF you let it and don’t do something about it. So get moving because I’m sure it’s as frustrating for your partner as it is for you. It will work out because nothing stays the same forever. Knowledge is power. Take it and you can solve your problem.

And finally

It is my hope that you learned something constructive here that will help you in your search to light the fires once again. If you have any comments, please leave them below and I will get right back to you. Thank you and I appreciate it!

 

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8 thoughts on “Does Diabetes Affect Your Sex Life?-Discover How to End the Sex Drought

  1. So I’ve had type 1 diabetes for 9 years. I must live under a rock, because I didn’t even know lack of sexual desire was a symptom. Though I’ve struggled with excessive thirst and peeing, being sleepy all the time, and loopy when I go low, I must have missed the bullet on that one. Though there’s times it would probably simplify life. That would be hard on your body and a marriage though. Thanks for your post. I’m sure it will help a lot of people.

    1. There are many symptoms with diabetes we might not have realized. Sex just happens to be one of them. It’s tough on a relationship but there are options explained here in this article that can help. The best thing to do if you have diabetes is to obviously control it. If it’s an emotional problem then a therapist could help.

  2. This site could be an important adviser for all guys who are suffering from diabetes and the along coming problem of sexual frustration. Nobody has to resign sexuality. There are some good hints on this site. I liked them although I do not suffer from diabetes. It is worth it to read!

    1. There are so many things that affect diabetes and sex can be one of them. Although not just related to diabetes, there are other factors in the lack of sex department. Sometimes it may be just one simple factor and other times more than one. It doesn’t always mean seeking the help of a therapist. But if it is from diabetes, you have to control it first.

  3. A lot of food for thought here!
    Never knew that lack of sex drive could be associated symptom in diabetes case.

    However, it makes sense & after putting body under certain kind of pressure or stress, whether it’s an acute or chronic condition.. something always gives.

    Although, I fear this gets even more tricky & complicated than that to find a true trigger.
    Depending on how severe the condition, there are likely cumulative symptoms & related conditions that will be adding to this list.

    What I’m trying to point out, is that diabetes can seem to us that singular condition that gets all the fame & blame..

    ..but in reality, diabetes is very frequently paired up with “bad boys” like obesity, unhealthy eating, sedentary lifestyle, environmental chemicals, poor conditioning, genetics, traumas..

    ..that aren’t exactly sex life boosters. Are they?
    Knowing the massive mixture of this pot, determining underlying condition becomes even more complicated.
    I’m afraid it’s plural, conditions, not one condition only.

    A very serious, complicated topic.
    Would love to hear your thoughts!

    1. Hey Henry!  Enjoyed your comments and I couldn’t agree more. Yes it is the bad things such as poor diet and lack of exercise that lead to diabetes and therefore sex issues. Because diabetes seems to be the blame for many things, deep down we know that it’s all the negative things that cause diabetes that are the culprits. 

      Sex would most likely be not affected if everything else was kept in check and then there was no diabetes or any bad health problems to blame. The bottom line is to eat healthy and exercise and stay healthy and then your sex life won’t suffer. You’ll be good to go! Thanks Henry!

  4. There are so many health effects of diabetes. I never knew that lack of sexual desire could be one of them. While some may discount it as not that important compared with some of the other negative health effects of the disease, it does affect quality of life, so it is important.

    I like your suggestions for exercise. I think too often we think we have to go all out, like running a marathon or practically living at the gym. I try to go for a walk every day, and I try to do some strength training at least once a week. It may not be ideal, but it’s better than nothing, and I feel great when I’m actually doing it.

    Thanks for this great information.

    1. Unfortunately diabetes affects everything including sex. It can diminish your desire for sex and have negative effects that change your sexual desires. Diet and exercise are the two big guns in the fight against diabetes and it’s complications. 

      It’s time that we all take control and reverse diabetes and take back everything that it changes. Sex is a wonderful part of life and it shouldn’t be taken away by a disease that can be prevented.

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